Day #22

New Years day. The first day of 2022. Forgive me if I don't celebrate. And forgive my cynicism. 2022 will not be as bad as 2021, that much I know, but I still think it's going to suck. Like royally. 

Here are just a few events in 2022 that I have to not look forward to:

  • Melges 15 regatta - January 7th, 8th and 9th (in Sarasota); our first regatta with the new boat; Damian was registered to be the skipper, I was to be his crew 

  • Damian's birthday - March 23. He was going to turn 16. I'm sure he would have insisted on getting his driver's license the day after. He was so ready to drive on his own. 

  •  Last day of 10th grade - end of May.  

  •  First day of 11th grade - end of August 

  •  Thanksgiving 

  •  The one year anniversary of his death 

  •  Christmas

On these days, I have license to feel extra sad and depressed. In between, I just get to feel normal sad and depressed. You know, "normal" for someone who has lost a child. 

Wow. That sounds really bitter. Even to me. 

Better strap in. It's going to be a bumpy ride. 

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