Day 37

Life goes on. Even for me. It's not the same life that I had in the before, but it's still my life. And it continues to go on.

Today, I put up trim around some new doors that my father-in-law and I installed over the holidays. I think I did a respectable job considering that I drive a desk for a living. The best part is that I was able to solve a particular problem that didn't have an obvious solution. And by "obvious" I mean that I couldn't buy my way out of it. I had to create something new...using parts that I did buy. But the solution was my idea and...it worked! Like a champ. Yeah, me. 

Next up: replacing the microwave. I won't start that for a couple of weeks. Next weekend Dawn and I will be in New Mexico. Where it will be cold and, probably, snowy. Yikes. 

As forecast, we had our snow event here today in North Georgia. Fortunately, we did not get as much as ice as predicted so no problems with the power going out or trees coming down. Good thing, too, about the ice because the wind was howling for hours. Had to be blowing in the upper 20s and 30s at least. 

Last week I went back to work. Kind of. I put in a few hours here and there. Answered some emails, sat in on some calls, gave a product demonstration to a customer prospect. It was ok, but if I'm being honest, my heart wasn't in it. For starters it was really hard to concentrate. My mind would just wander and I had to fight extra hard to maintain my focus on whatever it is that I was doing in the moment.  The other thing that made work "meh" and probably contributed to my lack of focus is that I didn't really care all that much about the problems du jour. They just didn't seem that important. I hung up on one conference call because I just didn't care to listen to people argue over who-knows-what. During last week's group session, a fellow member of my tribe said that she was already in so much pain over the loss of her loved one that she didn't have any room for more pain. She no longer puts up with people or things that are trying to add to her discomfort. I found this...enlightening. I think it explains why I hung up on the conference call. 

Anyway, let's hope this week goes better. Even if it doesn't, life will go on. 

 

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